I think this has been the hardest post for me to write thus far in this series. There are so many out there right now, from big names with great reputations and big followings, talking to moms about turning-in to their families and ministering to them first and foremost. I am going to try and just put it out there with no apologies because I believe its biblical but please hear me out. Many American Christian moms are making an idol out of their career. I don’t believe our family should necessarily come first in all cases. I think some times we need to sacrifice our ideal family for living out gospel-centered lifestyles.
The Real Homemaker’s Challenge: Idolatry
I don’t believe our family should come first. There are tons of teachings that list priorities as if they are a check list.
- Extended Family
- anything else
I don’t really see this playing out in the Bible. All of these things kind of meshed together. God is in everything. He is everywhere. You are never finished loving your family. Your work is never done. Your family is often involved in your church ‘activities’ and work and school can’t take a time out while we get everything else in order. Rarely do I see widows and orphans on anyone’s priority list. I think often our focus gets shifted and the world tells us our main priority as a mother should be “tending our home, raising our children and meeting our husbands needs”. Although moral and honorable things, that kind of thinking isn’t as much self-less as it is selfish.
As women, we feel at peace when things are running smoothly and things are in order. By making our priority our home we have turned-in and began focusing on how we can make life nice for us and ours rather than in what way does Christ want me to love today. We are uncomfortable with the idea that it might not make us feel good in the end. We might not get the warm bubbly feeling everyone says you get after being charitable. Thus we turn-in.
I am NOT saying we are to neglect the needs of our family! In all we do, we should do it to the glory of God.
I think some times we need to sacrifice our ideal family for living out gospel centered lifestyles.
Sacrificing our ideas may mean having to give up our child’s nap to eat, listen to, comfort, and love on someone in need of a friend. We need to be willing to sacrifice his good behavior, our sanity, when necessary to show love to people. God’s greatest command. Sacrificing the health of your children to hang out with and meet the emotional needs of the sick, cold-laden children in your community. Sacrificing the gourmet meals you’ve been stock-piling in your deep freeze for a month to feed a family more in need around the corner or the single mom who just had her first child.
Do you ever have trouble with idolize your career as a wife, mom, homemaker?
Thanks for being here for this series! I hope this helps all of us and our our homemaking heart challenges before we move on to more practical challenges of homemaking.
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